Am I a Bad Mom?

I hate to cook. Nothing about it turns me on except maybe eating the final product. I don't like shopping for the food, and I don't like spending hours in the kitchen making something that 1. no one will like or 2. I will eat by myself.

I ask my family, "What do you want for dinner tonight?" And they say "Whatever you feel like making". Well, duh. I wouldn't ask if I had something in mind. And, honestly, I don't EVER *feel* like making anything. I only do it because if I didn't, I wouldn't have anything to eat.

Eowyn and Leia used to be really picky eaters. They've grown and so have their tastebuds. But not my cooking skills....or my interest in cooking. Part of the problem is that we rarely eat together. Challenge (aka hubby) gets home from work at 3pm and is hungry. And so he eats and eats and eats....whatever he can find in the fridge. I'm sorry, I am not cooking dinner to eat at 3pm. Does that make me a bad wife? Eowyn is at college, and Leia will eat with me if she is home. But a couple times a week she goes to her friend's house and eats a good home cooked meal. And so I generally am eating alone. And since I don't like to cook in the first place, I am not going to do it just for myself....give me a hot dog on my george foreman and I'm a happy camper : )

Another issue is with Challenge and his love of hot sauce, hot peppers and anything garlic. Now I have nothing against garlic, or hot sauce, in moderation. But even if I do spend time cooking a meal....if I try to make something tasty, Challenge immediately gets out the hot sauce and pours it ALL over. Everything. He doesn't even taste it first. I used complain, but after 20+ years, I gave up. And so I get discouraged and cook as little as I can. Why try to make something fancy when it will be covered in hot sauce? *sigh*

Am I a bad mother because I don't like to cook? I imagine I am not the best role model in that respect. BUT, I have been in business for almost 20 years now, and I know I have shown the girls you can do anything and be successful if you put your mind to it and work hard. Plus I am home for my family, while working almost full-time.

Remember when our moms told us to marry a doctor or lawyer? Money and the easy life was the goal. I tell Eowyn and Leia to marry a chef. They just snicker at me and roll their eyes....